“Love is Blind”- Eve

“Love is Blind” is one of Eve’s first singles featured on her debut album, Ruff Ryders’ First Lady (1999). This song speaks out against domestic violence and men who abuse girlfriends, mistresses, or wives. The video captures the story of a woman, Eve’s friend, who constantly runs back to a man that abuses her, ultimately causing her death. The story of a woman being killed by her lover is one that has been told over and over again. In 1990, according to the Uniform Crime Reports of the Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI), 30% of women killed in the United States die at the hands of a husband or boyfriend.

The Women’s Aid Federation define domestic violence as follows: ‘Domestic violence is physical, psychological, sexual or financial violence that takes place within an intimate or family-type relationship and forms a pattern of coercive and controlling behaviour.’

Here is a list of facts about Domestic Violence

1. A woman is beaten every 15 seconds, according to the Bureau of Justice Statistics. Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women between 15 and 45 in the United States. This is more than auto accidents, muggings and rapes combined. Battered women are more likely to suffer miscarriages and to give birth to babies with low birth weights.
2. This sort of violence is the establishment of fear and control in a relationship. It is done through violence and other forms of abuse. The batterer uses intimidation, threats, psychological abuse, isolation, etc. to control the other person. The violence may not even happen often but it remains as a hidden and constant terrorizing factor. In many cases, it is predictable and happens in cycles.
3. Women of all ages, income levels, occupations, races and cultures are battered by boyfriends, lovers, husbands, partners and sometimes blood relatives. According to the Massachusetts Coalition of Battered Women, approximately one-third of the men they counseled for battering were professionals who were well-respected in their jobs and community.
4. According to the Boston Bar Journal (33-4, Jul/Aug, 1989), 22 to 35 percent of women who visit medical emergency rooms are seeking treatment for injuries related to ongoing abuse. One in four pregnant women have a history of partner violence.

http://www.bygirlsforgirls.org/domesticviolence.html or www.domesticviolence.org

This song and video also addresses sisterhood and friendship. Eve wants to have revenge on the killer of her friend. She warns her friend about the dangers of her relationship with the abusive father of her kids, exposing the unhealthy relationship, and tells her friend that she must leave him. But the friend ignored her warnings and was a victim of domestic violence which led to her death. Eve says this about stubborn friend.

“Nigga whatever my bitch, fuck it my sister
You could never figure out even if I let you live
What our love was all about
I considered her my blood and it don’t come no thicker

Through these lines we learn about the bond between Eve and her dead friend. Like in many rap songs, the word bitch is not used offensively but is used as a friendly term. Eve went as far as calling her friend a sister and kills the man who caused the death of her “sister,” risking her own freedom for vengeance.

She knows that she will be imprisoned for her actions, but acts regardless of the consequences, showing true loyalty to her friend. This action shows the ultimate power of friendship and sisterhood, when one woman risks everything in the name and in honor of another.