Lil Kim is extremely explicit and most of her music glorifies women like herself, who gain control by their sexual power. She proves that a woman can be as sexually explicit and graphic as men and get away with it. Her entire persona embraces her image as a sex object, yet she is ironically powerful and dominating. On her second CD, she has a song entitled “Suck My Dick.” The lyrics of this song reveals Lil Kim as a being that only thinks about sex; oral sex in particular is focused on and repeatedly mentioned. Although she has not released an official video for this song, someone on youtube took the liberty of posting the video, using pictures and snippets of Lil Kim in her other videos to provide the visuals. The male voice in the video is 50 Cent, a very popular male rap artist. It is interesting to compare the images of Lil Kim and her male counterpart, 50 Cent. This visual representation adds something to the lyrics of the song.

The chorus of the song is especially captivating:

50 Cent: Ay yo, come her bitch
Lil Kim: Nigga fuck you
50 Cent: No, fuck you bitch
Lil Kim: Who you talking to?
50 Cent: Why you acting like a bitch?
Lil Kim: Cause ya’ll niggas ain’t shit
And if I was a dude
I’d tell ya to suck my dick

I find it note worthy to mention that 50 Cent, the male in this interaction, calls the female, Kim, a derogatory name first. His approach to catch her attention initiates the aggressive verbal attacks between the two. Kim is caught off guard and is insulted by the name that she has just been called. To me, it seems that 50 Cent is also very condescending in the way that he talks to Kim. From the language being used, I can picture this confrontation taking place in a public area with a group of men and women present, maybe outside of a club. Specificallyl Kim says “ya’ll niggas” which signifies that more than one ‘nigga’ is present. There seems to be some anger and tension from both parties at the very beginning of this short confrontation.

DemiI also find it ironic that she deliberately mentions that she would say “Suck my dick” if she were a man. Today, both men and women say this statement without much hesitation and it is declared by women frequently, especially if they are in a situation where a man is oppressing them because of their gender. A good example of this is in the movie G.I. Jane. In this film, Demi Moore’s character struggles to become the first woman to survive the Navy Seal training, a training where 60 percent of the trainees don’t make the cut. In one scene in the movie, she tells her superior, the Master Chief to suck her dick. In response, the other trainees laugh and cheer her on. This saying automatically raises the status of the person who speaks it.

I think that Lil Kim doesn’t have to be a “dude” to tell the guy who calls her a bitch to suck her dick, but like in the film, it is interesting that the women adopt a male’s private parts instead of using their own. Saying, “lick my pussy” would be the equivalent, but is less heard of and doesn’t hold the same type of power. For some reason, ‘suck my dick’ is more acceptable and is an insult that is used regardless of gender. It is the power of the dick that makes this phrase such a powerful one.

There are many lines in this song that show the relationship between men and women and highlight the expectations of each gender.

Excerpt from Verse 1:

Imagine if I was a dude and hittin’ cats from the back
With no strings attached
Yeah nigga. Picture that!
I treat ya’ll niggas like ya’ll treat us
No doubt! Ay yo yo
Come here so I can bust in your mouth

Through these lines, Kim compares herself to a male version of herself, emphasizing the problems associated with her being a women. The man that she would be is very similar to male rappers like 50 Cent and their sexually explicit lyrics are approved. She implies that women are commonly reduced to sex objects and that if she were a man, she would be able to bypass all of the controversy around her sexual behavior and her views about sex. Being a woman and regarding sex the way that she does is the reason why she is so infamous.

Excerpt from Verse 2:

He asked me did I love him
I said what came to mind like niggas be doing
Yeah, baby I love you long time…

Got the camcorder laying in the drawer where he can’t see
Can’t wait to show the girls how he sucked the piss out of my pussy…

Niggas know he give me all his cake
I peeled the Benjis off and threw the singles back in his face

The second verse first addresses men who lie about being in love and Kim says that she adopts this habit, doing the same thing that “niggas be doing.” She also does some additional lying, hiding the camcorder. This camcorder is needed as evidence for proof later. Not only is Kim going to run and tell her girlfriends how she conquered a man in the bedroom, but she will receive further gratification when she reviews the footage. By watching it back on tape, she can keep the image of her victory forever. Maybe it is also supposed to serve as some kind of trophy, a personal triumph for women. The last bit shows Kim’s obsession with money and how money does in fact equal power. She is constantly being put in the eyes of other men and her attitude about making money is taking it from guys that she hooks up with. The way that she describes it here makes it seem that the man is willingly giving her money, maybe it is some sort of payment, but nonetheless the money is given to her. The man is rendered broke at the end, no money and no respect as she throws the singles in his face, a sign of him having no worth.

Excerpt from Verse 3:

Imma keep it real
For the dough, I might kill
Tryna see my face on a hundred dollar bill…

Niggas ain’t shit but they still can trick
All they can do for me is suck my clit
I’m jumpin’ up and up after I cum
Thinkin’ they gone get some pussy but they gets none

Once again money is placed very high on her priority list. She goes as far as saying she might even kill for money. This extreme act shows just how much money is valued by Kim. The next part acknowledges the double standards between men and women. There is the rebuttal that men have this option of “tricking” because of their gender, a choice that is closed off to women. Although they don’t deserve to have this type of behavior accepted, society condones it anyway. Kim has no need for men, as they have been reduced to satisfy her. She has no desire to try and please them and once she has been sexually fulfilled the intimacy is cut short and is over. Her “pussy” gives her authority because it is the one thing that men want and she deprives them of it to show her true power.

If you were to eliminate the sexual aspects of this song, the underlying message being discussed is respect. Since men have no respect for Lil Kim, she therefore has no respect for men. It is compelling that she decides to use the same act of sex to degrade men, an act that usually disempowers women. She creates an interaction between men and women that can never have the two equal, at least not at the same time. There will always be some imbalance of power if the respect of each individual is constantly gained at the expense of the other. This is similar to the game of tug-of-war where only one can be triumphant. The playing field will never be equal between men and women if they act like ‘niggas and bitches.’

Jeff Varner said it best when he said Kim, “Looks like a woman and plays like a man.” Kim agreed saying, “Yup, that’s my motto.” Kim wants to take the man’s game and make it her own, creating her own rules. Well maybe her rules aren’t that far off from the original ones, she just likes to rebel against the norms and play the game so that she is always declared the winner. Although it is pretty obvious that there are no legitimate winners or losers in this game, if you decide to play, both participants put themselves in jeopardy.

WARNING: PLAY AT YOUR OWN RISK!

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